My name is Mel, I'm 17, I live in Australia.
My obsession include- John Mayer, Tom Hiddleston, Loki, David Bowie, Noel Fielding, Russell Brand, Sherlock, Supernatural, Lie To Me, The Vampire Diaries, Harry Potter, House, Boston Legal, Doctor Who, Vampire Academy, and since I'm on Tumblr this list will just grow longer as time goes on.

 

Anonymous asked
why do australians drink so much alcohol..

champagnepapa:

to forget that tony abbott is essentially in control of our lives

borg-collective:

free-radical-feminism:

ivorysorrows:

lil-miss-choc:

bonerack:

princessnecrophilia:

weeaboo-chan:

vhscars:

protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
Use, redistribute, print. 
Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me
just
fucking
drop
some fucking
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.
And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.

Putting aside that I am against BDSM, this is very important. People really can die and this book definitely portrays doms as being able to do whatever they want without worrying about the sub (basically the sub becoming another object to play with). ASIDE from this already being a problem, the types of men this media popularity will attract to BDSM, and the vulnerable women who believe this to be sexy is on a collision course with some very serious trauma and abuse.
For people who have read it and thought it was sexy (or haven’t tried BDSM and think it could be): It’s always sexy in your mind. In your mind it is consensual, it’s with the right person in the right place and of course nothing will go wrong because you set the pace and the story. It won’t hurt and when you say “no” you’ll mean it playfully. Once it’s real it’s very different. It’s not the right man, he doesn’t listen, it hurts- A LOT, and you really mean no and he ignores it and you start to feel a paralyzing fear of what is going to happen to you and you will be powerless to escape because you will be physically tied/chained/caged (sometimes it’s not even physical but you have already been conditioned to believe you are worthless and your bodily autonomy is not worth fighting for). In your mind you can always stop, things always go the right way, but in real life the other person (male/dom) really can do what he wants and he will because you are his play thing, his doll, not a human.

BDSM is dangerous. Don’t let them tell you otherwise.

borg-collective:

free-radical-feminism:

ivorysorrows:

lil-miss-choc:

bonerack:

princessnecrophilia:

weeaboo-chan:

vhscars:

protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada

Use, redistribute, print. 

Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex

it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine

i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.

Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.

And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.

Putting aside that I am against BDSM, this is very important. People really can die and this book definitely portrays doms as being able to do whatever they want without worrying about the sub (basically the sub becoming another object to play with). ASIDE from this already being a problem, the types of men this media popularity will attract to BDSM, and the vulnerable women who believe this to be sexy is on a collision course with some very serious trauma and abuse.

For people who have read it and thought it was sexy (or haven’t tried BDSM and think it could be): It’s always sexy in your mind. In your mind it is consensual, it’s with the right person in the right place and of course nothing will go wrong because you set the pace and the story. It won’t hurt and when you say “no” you’ll mean it playfully. Once it’s real it’s very different. It’s not the right man, he doesn’t listen, it hurts- A LOT, and you really mean no and he ignores it and you start to feel a paralyzing fear of what is going to happen to you and you will be powerless to escape because you will be physically tied/chained/caged (sometimes it’s not even physical but you have already been conditioned to believe you are worthless and your bodily autonomy is not worth fighting for). In your mind you can always stop, things always go the right way, but in real life the other person (male/dom) really can do what he wants and he will because you are his play thing, his doll, not a human.

BDSM is dangerous. Don’t let them tell you otherwise.

http://lovebirdstiel.tumblr.com/post/93296366846/mishcollin-hmm-lets-go-through-this-one-by

mishcollin:

hmm let’s go through this one by one boys and girls

  • "the joke about misha was not transphobic." you are not trans so you don’t get to decide what’s transphobic?? woW??? (also my favorite bit is "it was not taken this way by misha who is a GOOD FRIEND!!!! of mine" yes because…

traversant:

archetypalboner:

“Women are more likely to be attracted to personality and men are more likely to be attracted to physical appearance.”

Woah maybe that’s because we teach women to see men as people and we teach men to see women as objects.

Ding ding ding ding ding.

(Source: revtomdildomolar)

Anonymous asked
Sick of fat pirate dragon-worshipping feminists like you

roane72:

mumblingsage:

amydentata:

dajo42:

fat pirate dragon-worshipping feminist

fat pirate dragon-worshipping feminist

fat pirate dragon-worshipping feminist

THANKS FOR INADVERTENTLY GIVING ME THE COOLEST TITLE EVER

I’M GONNA PUT THIS ON MY ABOUT ME PAGE

i’m not even gonna respond to the hateful part like you surely know you’re trash already i’m just gonna proudly be a fat pirate dragon-worshipping feminist

That deescalated quickly

If you have a problem with fat pirate dragon-worshiping feminists, I think the problem lies with you. 

This is the best thing. I want to be a fat pirate dragon-worshipping feminist. That sounds AWESOME.

ramblingrazyos:

Why won’t you come baby?
Why won’t you come when I call?
I’m not up to something funny
I just wanna know you girl, is all